I have been MIA the last week and a half because my family has suffered a horrible loss. My older cousin, Chad, passed away last Thursday and this whole week has been the worst week my family has experienced together. His funeral was at the end of this week and I was asked to speak. I wrote something for him and I decided to share it because I want everyone to know what a beautiful person Chad was. This is what I said for my precious Chad at the funeral.
one of the main things that can be said about Chad. He had an
inexhaustible ability to make those around him laugh, to make them feel
joy. The last few days have been some of the hardest I have ever
experienced in my life, but one thing that has really helped sooth some
of this pain has been being able to go on Facebook and see the
beautiful memories and funny stories that Chad's friends and loved ones
have posted about him. Most all of these memories are stories about
Chad's unyielding, loving nature. Chad was absolutely everyone's
biggest fan. He loved everyone, all the time, no matter what you did,
who you were, who you dated, how you believed, whatever; you were his
favorite person. Even if there were tons of people around, he could make
you feel like the most important person in the room. You felt like you
belonged. You felt like you were loved. Because he was talking to you.
Because he was interacting with you.
A day or so after I got the
news, I remembered something that was sitting in the back of my mind
all week. I had thought that I needed to text Chad about something (I
can't even remember what it was about, maybe a joke I saw on Tosh.0,
because we loved to text each other jokes from that show) I wanted to
text him because he'd get a kick out of it or... he'd like to hear
about it... or something. And I had stuck that in the back of my head
with the to-do list stuff and forgotten about it, assuming it was
something I could do at any time. The weight of this hit me all at
once, because we aren't guaranteed a tomorrow.
showed us what it looked like to choose to be happy, to choose joy. He
showed us what it meant to be playful. And above all, he showed us
what it felt like to be loved unconditionally, because it was the thing
he did so extraordinarily well.
He was one fiercely
positive ball of energy and each of our lives, this world, was made
more beautiful because he existed in it. We are not guaranteed more
time, but we are so blessed nonetheless."